It doesn’t matter how much sexiness is happening in the room, I won't be receptive to sex if these things are happening ....
PARTNER: 🍪 If my body feels tension around this person
🍪 If I don’t like their natural smell
🍪 If my partner is irritable, stressed
🍪 If I don't trust their integrity (e.g. around STI’s and pregnancy)
🍪 If they are not receptive to communication/feedback (e.g. they feel rejected if I say no)
🍪 If I feel they expect me to have sex with them
🍪 If they are not committed to authenticity (e.g. it feels like they’re playing a game, or have an agenda, or not being direct, people/pleasing)
ME
🍪 If I feel anxiety, tiredness, anger, loneliness...
🍪 If I am stressed about time restrictions or obligations
🍪 If I don’t feel good about my body e.g. I feel bloated, or haven’t showered
🍪 If I think my breath smells
**All of this gets me from neutral to panting!!! SEX PLEASE! 🥵🌶️
PARTNER