A 5 min read over a tea ☕️
I want to change my title to a very unapologetic: ‘Flirt Queen’. 👸🏼
I always wondered why people came to me for flirting advice. I had no friggin clue what I was doing. What was my secret sauce? 🍔 God knows, so I set out to consciously learn.
Fast forward to now -- I'm running flirting workshops and people are devouring my words 🤤 (or my body language?). And I feel on FIRE.
Turns out I do know a thing or two?!
So, here are my 5 tips to be an effortless flirt.
We put a disproportionate emphasis on the other person’s experience. We think: Am I interesting enough? 😱What are they thinking? 🤭 Did I say the right thing? 🙊 These are the wrong questions. The wrong angle.
My approach: 👉🏼 go inward 👈🏼. How do YOU feel in connection with this person? Check your body’s signals. 🚦Does this person energise you? Do you feel safe in connection with this person? Do you feel grounded? Is your breathing shallow or slow/deep? 🫁 Do you feel seen, heard?
Why?
It teaches you that you value yourself and your body’s wisdom. This will relax you, because you are less anxious about the other person's experience and more caring about your own.
Ask your body: Is this the connection you actually desire?
....something I find IRRESISTIBLY sexy:
When someone verbalises what’s currently happening in their body/thoughts/desires — in relation to our interaction. For example...