SUCH a classic story, right? You meet your partner, you have an incredible sex life and then suddenly you realise: you’re just barely having sex anymore.

I went through the same thing myself last year. 😅

I want to share some insights on WHY sex life can dry up and HOW to revive it.

I spent 2 days on this article -it’s packed with gems. 💎💎💎

The thing is, we expect the ease of our sex life to carry on. For us to be wanting to rip our clothes off every single time.

Life doesn’t work that way. When my ex-partner and I realised we were barely having sex anymore, we had a good heart to heart and brainstormed. We considered:

1. The fact that I have been highly anxious recently (thanks to burn out)
2. The fact that we’ve passed the ‘honeymoon’ stage - is this the new normal?
3. Whether we have different sex drives?
4. Whether we were speaking each other’s blueprints
5. Why sex was starting to feel effortful or script-like.

....and some other catch-all solutions below. LETS TUCK IN!!!!

1. Feeling Stressed and Anxious

When you are stressed, your sexual “brakes” are slammed on. So of course you ain’t going anywhere. It doesn’t matter how much "accelerator" is applied (e.g. massages, sex toys, amazing blow job), you ain’t going anywhere if you are time pressured, carrying work stress or annoyed at your partner. If you have to get from -10 to 10, it's often the unsexy stuff that needs to be fixed first. Like brushing your teeth or washing your face.